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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the OP.

I definitely didn’t mean to offend or upset my nanny.  I trust her abilities and she’s been alone with all three many times and does well.  I just had last minute jitters and feel more comfortable leaving my kids with two sets of hands instead of one.  I sincerely thought nanny would be grateful for the help.  Her pay stays the same but less work.

My kids are young.  7mo, 2.5 and 6.  They’re a handful and I kept imagining scenerios where nanny would need help and quick.  I agree, I should have consulted her first.  That being said, I think in any job you have to be fairly flexible and know things aren’t always going to go your way.  I guess I’m just disappointed in our nannies reaction. Very unexpected.

Also my mother is able bodied and sound of mind.  She just gets overwhelmed with all three.  My mother being present definitely doesn’t add to any duties the nanny has, just relieved her of many.

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You really need to own this.  You almost certainly offended your nanny by communicating that you did not think she could handle the kids--you had jitters and kept imagining scenarios in which she would need help.  Just because you can't take care of your kids on your own doesn't mean that your nanny can't.

You also assumed that your mom being there is less work, but that's not necessarily true.  Having a grandparent there can make things more complicated.  The kids might not behave as well, they'll have to constantly negotiate who is responsible for what, etc.  Plus, she might feel like she won't really have any privacy or down time because your mom will be there.  You really should have asked her first, because having someone else in the house the whole time she's caring for the kids is a big change in the working conditions.

If you don't want to cancel your mom's ticket, then you tell the nanny no hard feelings (and mean it) and try to find some babysitters, mother's helpers, college students, etc., who can help out during the day.  [/quote]

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