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[quote=Anonymous]As a child of multiple divorces, maybe it will help to give you my memories of meeting my mom's new boyfriend when I was a tween. Looking back, no one said anything wrong and the guy was very nice. But that's not the issue.

I knew she had been seeing a friend. It was super uncomfortable because regardless of what I thought of the guy, seeing my mom trying to please both of us, and seeing her be all flirty was really unsettling. She was acting differently (as we all do when we are dating someone) than she had when she was with me or with my dad. WORSE, as he spoke it was clear to me that she had been telling him all sorts of information about me. Today, as an adult, I understand why, but at the time if felt incredibly invasive.

During that meeting I felt like my world shifted again and the person I knew was unstable because they were acting like I had never seen them act before.

It would have been much much better if she had waited another year, if there had just been a small encounter first and not a whole dinner and event planned. It would have been better if they had waited until their relationship was much more solidified so there wasn't all that eager-to-please attitude which made me feel second class and insecure.[/quote]

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