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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you sound like a nice man and a good father. You remind me a lot of my own father, who was deeply hurt by his divorce from my mother and introduced me to his new "friend" at Christmas less than a year after their separation/divorce. He did this with the best of intentions, because he wanted to feel that I was okay and that we could move on as a different family unit. Although he meant well, it was too much change too soon and it damaged our relationship in ways I don't think he realized, because I wanted to protect him and I was afraid to say that this situation was upsetting to me.

I really think you should wait a bit longer to introduce your daughter to your girlfriend and definitely not do it at Christmas; part of what made it hard for me was trying to figure out a dynamic with a new person at a time of year when dealing with a changing family structure is already hard. The first Christmas after your separation is basically the worst time I could think of to introduce your daughter to your new girlfriend. Have a nice Christmas with your daughter, establish some new traditions on your own, and have a get together with your girlfriend in a few months. I guarantee you it is worth the wait.

I think it is nice that you send your girlfriend text updates and photos of your daughter, don't listen to the crazies commenting on that! [/quote]

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