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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, here. I guess I feel the need to defend myself a bit here. My son’s been having issues with feeding - gagging, choking, hard swallows, coughing - for the past 8 months (as in, when he started solids). The daycare has catered meals; he already had a designated lunch buddy (an adult who sits with him while he eats) and had been getting food that is chopped in smaller pieces than his same-age peers. So after he got a piece of pear the size of a Cheerio lodged in his throat, his pediatrician suggested he get a feeding evaluation done. A SLP with extra training in feeding issues (swallowing, chewing, moving the tongue) does the evaluation. It turned out his mouth skills are fine, but I don’t think I overreacted by taking this seriously.

As a side note, I got married and had him in my late thirties. It’s looking like we won’t be able to have another child. And I think that pain, in combination with “trying to keep a toddler alive” is making me more sensitive.

On the other hand, my parents have a history of invalidating and minimizing my feelings and experiences. This interaction just felt different because they were minimizing what happened to my child.[/quote]

I think you could explain all of this to your parents and they will continue to be the types to think that you overreacted.

FWIW, I think you and the daycare are doing a really good job of addressing this.  And you need to keep on doing what you are doing. The health and safety of your child depends on it.

You should not leave your son alone with your parents - ever.  As in never. They don't get it and they probably never will.  I'm sorry, but they not only sound like clueless know it alls, they also sound like mean spirited jerks.  [/quote]

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