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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sucks that your mom said those things, but as the your dad’s life partner she is really hurting. She is the inner ring. You are in the next layer of rings. Talk to a friend or another relative, but don’t dump on your mom right now.[/quote]

PP here. I get that OP's mom is the inner ring [b]but that refers to support flowing inward, not abuse flowing outward[/b]. I gave my mom a pass for the first few months and then I realized that one of her ways of coping was to take out her anger at the situation on her children. No. That is not OK.

OP, if this was unusual for her then try to forgive her, she is in pain, but do NOT let this become her pattern. She is not allowed to take out her frustrations on someone who is also going through fear and loss.[/quote]

+1 The PP misread the "ring" article.

Mom will have a very lonely old age if she keep hurtling abuse at her daughter whenever she can't cope.

OP, I'm sorry your dad is ill and that you are having this extra burden during this scary time.  I hope you can let some of it go right now because she is hurting.  But it isn't a daughter's job to be a punching bag.

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