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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you want to adopt and not give birth, you are really jumping the gun. You have years and years to do this in.

Go to therapy. Work on your weird fixation on income. It sounds a lot like a defensive mechanism, and it's not serving you well. [/quote]

This.

Also, for the record, I met my DH at a size 24 and age 38.  He makes a lot more than I do.  I had a baby at 41.  I think you have a weird fixation on income and on your own weight, which at size 16 is not exceptional.  At that size I dated plenty of hot guys.

[b]Why on earth would you adopt someone else’s infant rather than having your own, either way?  (Unless you had a calling to adopt from foster care, not that it sounds like you do.)[/quote][/b]

Oh.
My.
God.[/quote]

I know.  PP may have had a size 24 in clothes but definitely has a 00 sized heart.[/quote]
Why are you all casting aspersions on the first PP?  Did you choose to adopt instead of having a baby (knowing that you had no fertility issues)?  The vast majority of people choose to have a baby unless it turns out they can't.  It's cheaper, usually quicker, and you don't have to worry about a bunch of issues that come with building your family through adoption.  I say this as an adoptive mom who totally loves my kids.  But yeah, I tried to have one biologically first.  Didn't most of you?  [/quote]

I did adopt my first child, thanks.  Adoption isn't limited to the infertile community.  It is the first (and only, for some) choice for some of us.  Yes, the vast majority of people have bio children and I have no issues with that. It's her attitude in that statement that rubs me the wrong way, and I see I'm not the only person who feels that way.

In any case, OP, I went to school with a classmate who adopted a child as a 30 something, larger-figured woman. She did meet someone shortly after and he also adopted her child and they went on to have a bio child, but sadly they did divorce several years ago.[/quote]

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