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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I like to be independent. I never take help. I raise my kids, pay my bills.[/quote]

This.  My parents are wealthy. My in-laws are wealthy. We would never accept money from them for anything other than an emergency, which in 30 years of marriage has never happened. The idea of taking money from our families to pay for our kids’ schools or for a down payment on a home would go against everything my DH and I value.  We are adults. We take care of our kids. We pay our bills. I definitely think less of people who accept money from family. We will inherit one day.  But we won’t take money from our families until then. [/quote]

[b]So you think you are morally superior?  This, I do not get.[/b] [/quote]

I don't either.  In my family we are "all in" so if you need something then I'll help you with it, and vice versa.  I definitely think less of people who believe that they are morally superior and who live in silos.  The lessons I learned watching my parents is that we look out for others and we give not only from our excess but from our core.  There were definitely times when we as a family went without because my parents were helping out another member of the family.  It is a lesson that I hope my husband and I have passed on to our children.[/quote]

You parents put other family members before their own children?[/quote]

Yep.  It didn't mean we didn't have food on the table but it did mean that sometimes we deferred purchases so that other people could have food on their tables.  I have no problem with that.  [/quote]

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