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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s funny how for thousands of years, men didn’t have ADHD. Suddenly, in the last 20 years, 70% of the men in DC have it. It seems like part of a larger trend lately to pathologize men.[/quote]

They had it, but the world was designed around men so they were able to compensate.
For thousands of years, many women helped their husbands with whatever the family did for a living. Wives caught mistakes that would have been costly and sometimes even secretly ran the entire farm or business. It also helped that people were less strict with time and there was hardly any paper to keep track of. 
If men were unsuccessful in one venture, for roughly 500 years at least some had the outlet of immigrating to various colonies or in the US striking out for the West.
Of course, the biggest thing is that people with ADHD are more likely to die in accidents. Without modern medicine to stop bleeding or deal with crush injuries, many young ADHD males died before they could marry and reproduce. After the dawn of the 20th century, many more survived to pass on those genes and then their ADHD male offspring also survived. 
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+1 
I see it so clearly in FIL, who passed on a less severe case to my DH and now my DS has his diagnosis.

FIL - divorced when DH was 3. Was incapable of simple household tasks like laundry & cooking - they ate take-out, fast food or in restaurants for almost every meal.  His secretary handled things like Dr. appointments, anything school related, etc. Dumped kid on his sister and mother whenever possible.  In later life, he let his house fall into a disgusting level of cleanliness and disrepair to the point where he had to move into assisted living because the nurses were unwilling to work in a house with mice in the kitchen and mold on the ceiling. Never got that surgery he needed because he kept putting it off.

He's a real mess, that was enabled by his parents, sisters, secretaries, daughter, etc.[/quote]

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