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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She needs to take a martial art... perhaps Jui Jitsu.

Bullying... no, teasing, yes...

She needs to learn how to stand up for herself.

I would call the counselor and have her/him research to see what is going on.. why is she an easy target. Where are her friends when this happens?[/quote]

OP already posted that she takes a martial art and has for 4 years.  My ods had taken many years of tkd and judo, it really didn't matter to bullies. In the martial arts training it is DRILLED in to them to not use it unless they are in danger.  School bullies don't really count for that and my kid would have been suspended if he had taken down the bully who had only punched him.

All of this is really coming across as blaming the victim for being different or being sensitive or being a shy, awkward middle schooler.  NO!!!

Those kids know they are being jerks, and the school needs to handle it.  [/quote]

You should try jui jitsu, it isn't to teach you to fight bullies, if you think it is then your marital art is not doing it's job.

You can't control other, this is not victim blaming. People suck, they do in middle school, college roommates, bosses. Yes, you need to be less sensitive.

BTW, if my kids get suspended for hitting a bully I would not care 1 iota, nor should you. It's like getting arrested at a sit in for what you believe in.

Where are her friends, btw?[/quote]

Juijitsu is very similar to judo but has joint locks and less bringing opponents down because it is more of the ground wrestling that judo has.  We are familiar with the different martial arts but thank you.  You are missing the point - my child should not be taking someone to the ground - particularly not on concrete when he is not afraid for his safety.   He could have caused a serious head injury to the other kid. That is not responsible, and frankly, he shouldn't HAVE to be physically defending himself at school.  It is the school's job to make sure that school is a safe place.

Her dd is already in martial arts.  Having the school take discipline and school climate seriously will help her dd with her confidence. Middle school is hard enough with out her having to physically defend herself and her belongings.  Her dd will grow in to her confidence but OP is doing what she can to support that outside of school with the martial arts that her dd does and enjoys.

The responsibility for this situation lies on the misbehavior of the other kids and the blind eye/lack of supervision that the school is allowing, and an overly tolerant school climate where the kids think it is okay to get away with treating someone badly.  [/quote]

You are missing the point. Every martial art should also teach kids how to walk away and not be so hurt by other people's words.

These boys are grabbing her belonging which does not constitute fighting back .... she should tell the teacher.

But this is  not bullying this is teasing and she really needs to get a tougher skin.  Again...where are her friends? does she have friends? if not there is a bigger problem than some boys teasing her. [/quote]

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