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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She may be looking but I suspect[b] she is afraid of intimacy and so is pursuing the wrong guys[/b] - because beneath it all, she really doesn't want someone to get too close.  I say this from my own experience of having pursued unavailable men because the available men were too scary.

You can't overcome this problem by telling yourself to go after men who fit a checklist of good qualities when your heart is not in it.  You have to do therapy and understand why you are scared and learn to confront your fears with help from a professional.  It was pretty scary for me to ask out the guy who I eventually married but it was possible after doing serious therapy around this.[/quote]

This totally describes a friend of mine who is still single at 41.  There have been plenty of nice guys who have liked her along the way, but she's never been interested.  She's only gone after unavailable men. She even dated someone who broke up with her because he just couldn't get her to open up and felt like he didn't really know her after several months, which is exactly what PP surmised.  For whatever reason, she's afraid of true intimacy.  The guys she does date read her distance as disinterest and move on.  [/quote]

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