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[quote=Anonymous]This is us.  We celebrate and host everything:  Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kipour, Thanksgiving, Chanukah, Christmas and Easter.  And I bake a zillion Christmas cookies for neighbors, friends and families.  Part of it is the families (mine and his) don't want to miss out (Jewish nieces and nephews here for passover want Easter baskets, Catholic nieces and nephews like our Seder), some of it is our house can fit everyone, some of it is we want to celebrate both of our heritages, part of it is I like to cook...

If the problem is the work of hosting, outsource: order the food from elsewhere/cater the meal, have a house cleaner come the day before.

If the problem is too many people/too many events, pick and choose.  Decide ahead of time and let everyone know way ahead that you are planning a change for this year.  If you aren't surprising them the day/week before, they won't be upset, and might even offer to step up and host.  They might think you always host and want to always host, so don't offer.

Our kids are teens, and while I usually grimace by about Dec 15th, when I'm exhausted, I know I only have a few short years before the kids are gone, and won't be around for some of these holidays because of college, then jobs, then someday their own families.  That helps me get through....[/quote]

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