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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Donor egg may be in the cards for us. We were first adamantly opposed but I'm coming to terms that there may be no other way we can have another child with my eggs (bad bad DOR and 35yo).

How did you wrap your head around this option? Did it meet your expectations? Was it super expensive? How did others treat you when you told them? What will you tell your child about his/her genetics? THank you in advance.[/quote]

It took me about a year to wrap my head around DE.  After 3 failed IUIs at 41 (complete waste of time and money), a very kind nurse gently mentioned donor egg.  And I just burst out crying.  I said I could "never" have "another woman's child."  I had 2 more (failed) IVFs, and I quit trying.  I was going to have an only.  After a year of trying to come to grips with that, I slowly started to warm up to the idea of DE.  I talked to my husband about it and he never had opposition to DE.  I was open to the idea of adoption, why not DE?  The baby would be genetically 1/2 my husband's.  By the time we made the appt with the RE, I was 80% on board with the idea.  I did a lot of research, did a lot of soul searching and we moved ahead several months later.  We did the SG shared-risk program -- i think it was about $35,000.  (we drained savings.)  My first cycle failed, which was a huge shock because DE is the answer, right?  We chose a new donor -- young and proven! -- and I wasn't optimistic  -- we transferred 2 morula.  And I was pregnant!  And I had a beautiful baby girl 2 years ago.

We didn't tell a whole lot of people.  Our families don't know.  Only about 3 close friends.  When I was pregnant and when she was born, I was 100% about telling her about "her story" at an early age.  Now I'm wavering.  I will tell her one day, but I don't know when.  As part of the DE process at SG, you go to a counselor and discuss this issue.

Best of luck.      [/quote]

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