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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone thinks that the perfect zinger of a comeback will solve the problem, but it won't. It might just escalate it. Better to have a few standard, noncommittal responses, and stick with them. "I don't know if I like that." Responses could include: "Oh, okay." "Good to know." "I'll keep that in mind." "Hmmmmm." And then just move on. Don't give it any oxygen. [/quote] I do all of this. Combined with a grey rock style of being pretty boring. Do NOT take the bait. She wants you to defend your choices, so that she can argue with you and change your mind. The best defense here is to NOT PLAY the game. I also say things like "interesting" or "huh, everyone is different!" or "yes, you've mentioned that before". The minute you find yourself getting defensive, she's won. Quiet confidence is the name of the game. No explaining, no trying to defend your choices. Shoulder shrugs and "yup that's how we do it" and move along.[/quote]
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