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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you serious???  Why is this tacky?[/quote]

well for one reason, why would you advertise your registry to a bunch of people who aren't even invited to the wedding?  [/quote]

I'm not saying it's smart or the best approach.  But why is posting it on FaceBook or, more curiously, including the registries in the invitation considered tacky?[/quote]

OMG, really?

The only time it's acceptable to put registry info on an invitation is if it's for a shower, because a shower, by definition, is an event where you bring a gift for the person of honor.

When you invite someone to your wedding, it is NOT expected that guests will bring a gift.  The point of the event is NOT gift giving.  Of course, it's likely that most people who come will bring a gift, because they want to give the couple something to celebrate the event.  But it is not okay to ask people to bring gifts.  Registries are there for convenience, and if a guest asks about the registry, it's perfectly acceptable to direct him/her to it.  But DO NOT put registry info on invitations.  Tacky!

And Facebook??  Good lord.  No.  As the PP pointed out, chances are most people on your FB friends list aren't even invited to the wedding.  Talk about a gift grab!  Tacky tacky tacky.[/quote]

Sounds like a very antiquated perception of weddings.  I am going through the process now, along with many other friends, and this is completely foreign.  This may have been true in the past but is not true of my generation.[/quote]

Your generation?  You mean your social class.  Ick.[/quote]

And what exactly is that supposed to mean?  What do you know of my social class?  This is the problem with these conversations... someone way back when decided the "right" way to do something and anyone who doesn't adhere to that decision is outcast.  Fuck that.  I'm sorry, but I'd rather have a "tacky" insert in a wedding invitation than being a pompous, judgmental asshole.  To me, that is far more tacky.[/quote]

Your true colors are showing...
The etiquette surrounding not demanding a gift in writing, as a quid pro quo of attending a social gathering that you are INVITING SOMEONE TO AS YOUR GUEST is not a generational issue.  Just because the manner of invitations has evolved, and you have access to email or evite or facebook or whatever, does not make the practice of gift grabbing any less tacky.  It's tacky now.  It will be tacky 20 years from now.  It will always be tacky because it's bad manners. [/quote]

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