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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a 36 yr old adoptee.  I have never questioned that the people who raised me are my parents. Over the years I developed strange talents that were so out of the realm of my parents and my friends.  When I had kids myself and realized my only known blood relatives shared these traits out of the womb I became more fascinated. I took both major tests, 23 and me and ancestry, last year and within an hr I had all the answers to my “story”.  Some of the immediate players were thrilled and I talk to them all the time (daily), others were devastated and won’t likely ever contact me.

Bottom line this is not your decision to make. As a 10
Year old adoptee I would have loved to find out that I was 53% Swedish but I would never have fully understood the ramifications of opening Pandora’s box. In addition, while my birth family and adoptive family were very similar, socio-economically, culturally, with a similar education level so I can’t speak to how I would feel regarding identity crisis there are many adoptees that experience an extreme sense of identity crisis.  I have two very close friends that grew up with amazing parents, were fortunate to experience many diverse opportunities yet decided they needed to find out their personal story. Once they took 23andmeme and recognized how different their life could have been they both struggled deeply to cope with their indentity and who they were born to be.

THIS IS NOT YOUR DECISION, nor is a 10 year old ready to understand the ramifications of this. [/quote]

Adoption is very different now than when you were adopted/grew up.  We know a lot about our child's history/birthparents/their families (some great, some horrible) so sometimes for this generation pandora's box is open.  I can google and see what they are doing very easily.  [/quote]

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