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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't say it's horrible, but it's strained in some ways. My mom is, in many ways, a tortured person. She is a lifelong Catholic who has completely embraced the Catholic guilt--she always says "I know am a deeply flawed person" and fully believes that everyone will be asked to answer for their life in front of God after death.

She wasn't treated well as a kid and has a mentally ill brother who took up her parents' emotional energy, leaving her to basically raise herself. I think she has undiagnosed anxiety issues--she'll wake up in the middle of the night worrying about things.

That said, she worked her butt off to try to be a good mom for my sister and me. In many ways she has been a good mom, but her anxiety and hypercritical nature can be completely exhausting.

I used to resent these things in her, but at this point I just feel sorry for her and hope that one day she can find peace. [/quote]

You are a kind daughter.[/quote]

I wish I could be kinder about my mom's shortcomings but I just can't.  I've taken the selfish route and set up boundaries to protect myself.  I do consider myself an overall compassionate and understanding person, but I find that I just can't get over what my mom has done.  Probably because she doesn't think she's done anything wrong.  But I should still be the bigger person.[/quote]

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