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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you want your spouse to support you? Express their concern for you regarding your weight? Express their concern for themselves and your future lives together?  My DH is morbidly obese. He is addicted to food and goes through at least 3 cycles a year where he'll  try to do something about it, and he inevitably fails. I have been through so many cycles that I can muster only minimal support and encouragement for the latest attempt at getting his weight under control. His parents have horrible weight-related issues, and he will too. I have said, kindly, that their path is his - it's only a matter of time.

I don't know what to do, and the resentment is building as I see his choices negatively impacting himself, and the future lives of myself and our kids.

I am at a loss. I want to be kind, I want to be gentle, and I want to be supportive. But, after so many years of the cycles, the denial, the food addiction, and seeing his parents' spiraling health, I'm becoming desperate. [/quote]

Keep it out of the house and cook at home, reduce going out to restaurants. [/quote]

How many lbs did you get your morbidly obese spouse to lose with this strategy?[/quote]

You can't dictate what your morbidly obese spouse eats.  If he goes out and eats a bucket of fried chicken that's on him.  If you bring home a bucket of fried chicken and he wolfs it down that's on you for bringing that temptation home and placing it right in front of his nose.

I'm fat and I go into the mentality that I was in when I waited tables.  I never ate on the job when I worked in a restaurant.  That's how I can be around and even cook food for my family that I can't have.  As long as I get into that food service worker mindset I'm fine.  But if I fall into the customer mentality....yikes.[/quote]

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