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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My nephew is a brat. Not all my nieces/nephews are brats, most are polite and super easy going. But this one is. He is 11. It's not a phase.

Because his family is visiting, I will end up driving him around a few times. That's fine. In my car, the rules is that all electronics must have the sound totally off, or you must use headphones. He will give me crap about it, and constantly complain. And constantly disobey. I tell him the sound must be OFF, not low, because I am driving and that's comfortable for me while driving. He'll keep putting it back on.

Last time, I treated all the kids to one of those "Escape Room" type things. He complained the whole time, why we didn't choose one of the other scenarios, after repeatedly explaining that the different time slot did not work out for any of us. He complained about it the rest of the day. The other kids loved it and had no complaints.

He'll complain that there isn't any rice or french fries at thanksgiving... and will just eat corn. Sorry, I have enough to do and make and clean - I'm not making you rice or french fries because you won't eat mashed potatoes or turkey or anything else but corn.

[b]His parents aren't nitpicky, but they don't do anything about his bratty or rude behavior. [/b]

Can I just take his phone and put it in the trunk when I'm driving? I know I'll get sh!t from brother and SIL, but the kid's brattiness is their fault.

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Well, you are handling this the wrong way. It's not your job to discipline your nephew. Just punt it back to brother and SIL.

"Larlo always says he wants rice or french fries at dinner. Should I get some frozen stuff for you to make, or do you plan to pick some up when you get here."  If his parents choose not to do this and he complains at dinner just say "Sorry, Larlo, I asked your parents if they wanted to make that for you and they said no."

"Larlo didn't enjoy the activity last year and wanted to leave. Which one of you will be joining us in case he wants to leave again this year?" If they choose not to come and Larlo complains during the activity, direct him to call or text his parents to come pick him up.

"Larlo doesn't want to follow the rules in my car about his phone. Which one of you will be renting a car and driving him?" If they choose not to rent a car, determine which one of them will be home to receive him when you turn the car around and bring him home.

If they accuse you of being too hard on him say "That is why I am asking for your help. He's the only one who isn't following my rules so I think it's best if you take the lead with him."

Also, FTR, it's a little weird that you won't buy a bag of microwave rice to throw in the microwave for 5 minutes for the kid. It's easy and there is literally nothing to clean up. But if you prefer to tell his parents to do it that is certainly your right.[/quote]

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