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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Send your husband with the kids. [/quote]

I hate this type of advice.

Maybe she wants to spend her vacation days with her children?

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What’s stopping her? He takes PTO and takes the kids for vacation week 1. She takes PTO and takes the kids for vacation week 2. Then later in the year, they both take PTO and do a third week of vacation. [/quote]

So, your solution is that the kids never go on vacation with their parents as a family?

Seriously, the grandparents need to let go. When children grow up they get married and have children of their own. That is their new little family and they need time together - yes, they even need vacations together. Kids are only little for a little while. Then they grow up and the cycle begins again. Grandparent vacations are an occasional thing not something that you are entitled to. I can’t believe I have to spell this out for you! [/quote]

It must be hard being illiterate. You have my sympathies.[/quote]

In the wise words of Elsa; Let it go, Grandma. Let it go.

Time to accept that families do not want to plan their vacations around your schedule. Time to let go. You’ll enjoy your time with your family much more this way and  they will too. It’ll be okay, I promise.

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I’m not a grandma. I’m the 35 yo mother of a 5 yo, who also would prefer not to burn a week of PTO to visit my in-laws. DH and I each take a (separate) week of PTO to separately visit our respective parents, with DS. Then we take an additional week as a family vacation, without grandparents. So DS gets three “vacations”, and we both get two. We both then have 2 weeks of PTO left over to cover sick days, school breaks, and take a long weekend, just the two of us.

OP could use the timeshare week as her DH’s separate week with the kids and his parents. Then she could take the kids to see her parents another week. And then she, DH, and the kids could take a week and go on a family vacation.

Your control issues and resentment of your own MIL must be clouding your reading and logical reasoning skills today, because your two previous posts are absolute gibberish. Maybe try to take a nap.
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It's great that you've discovered a formula that works well for your family.  Good for you!  But not everyone has an equal amount of leave and not everyone can afford 3 separate trips like in a year.

Some people really only get ONE week of leave and they don't appreciate having it planned out for them by their parents.[/quote]

BOTH parents only have one week of leave, and there are enough monetary resources to take a family vacation? How does this family handle sick days or teacher work days, or school breaks?

Ok. Dad takes a long weekend to the time share with kids (1 day of PTO for dad, 0 for mom). The family takes a long weekend vacation (Thursday-Tuesday). Mom has a day in reserve for a sick day.[/quote]

Annual leave and sick leave are not the same thing.  At my former company, new hires had one week of annual leave, a handful of "personal holidays" and a week of sick leave.  After they had been there for several years they then got 2 weeks of annual leave.

The personal holidays were usually spent on things like snow days or staying at home for a repairman.  Sick days are self explanatory.  That week of annual leave was sacred and, no, I would not have appreciated having my leave days planned for me.[/quote]

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