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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH used to travel for work all the time and flying was never pleasant for him but he used to be able to tolerate it okay. About 3 years ago, he got a job that requires no travel and while it’s been lovely to not have him gone for 1-2 weeks a month for half the year, it is now basically impossible for us to travel for pleasure of it involves flying. My entire family lives on the west coast and they have visited us but I have not been out to visit them since 2015 because DH’s fear of flying is so severe that [b]he won’t go and won’t agree for me to go with our kids alone. [/b]In like April, we started talking about Christmas and going out west. He was very nervous about it but agreed to go. It is the 2nd week of November and he is already anxious about the trip such that he brings it up at least once a day (how stressed he is about flying at all, how the plane might crash, how he isn’t looking forward to it at all).

I have suggested the following: anti-anxiety meds, a stiff drink, me handling all the luggage and children. I have even suggested that if he is gat nervous about it, he does not have to go. But I am not willing to simply never see my parents and siblings again because of an irrational fear of flying that was manageable 5 years ago. He has rejected all my suggestions (meds make him groggy and unhappy, he doesn’t like drinking, he feels bad making me deal with all the kid stuff and baggage). I have tried really hard to be sympathetic but I’m out of sympathy. He would be thrilled if we just canceled the trip and never went anywhere again. I find that incredibly selfish and not fair to our kids, who are now looking forward to the trip.

Have any of you managed to get over an extreme fear of flying?[/quote]

Sorry this would be a deal breaker for me. I'd give him two choices - do what you have to do to fly (man up, take meds, whatever) or I'm taking the kids without you. The end.[/quote]

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