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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I’m not desperate. I was the one afraid to settle down in past relationships, but I’m ready for marriage/kids. I know she’s the one for me...I don’t see a reason to wait. We both want marriage/kids. I’m a strong believer in living together before marriage.I’m not going to propose now, but I want to do it before her timeline. She wants to wait at least a year, have a year engagement, and [b]then another 2-3 years before kids.[/b] I just want a wife and kids before that. I can wait on the marriage, but waiting 4-5 years for kids is not something I want. [b]I’m not sure what to do, but breaking up might happen. [/b][/quote]

Do you know why she wants to wait 2-3 years of marriage before having kids?  I thought that way at first,but it was more of it being an ideal than feeling strongly we needed 2-3 years of marriage before kids or not feeling ready for kids.  I ended up moving up that timeline to trying after we were married a year and going on a big overseas vacation before we started trying.

As for potentially breaking up, I’m not sure most women at 31 would be on a much faster timeline than your girlfriend other than shaving a year or two off how long married before trying to have kids.  It could take a year to find someone else so you would still be 39 or 40 before having kids.  That said, if this points to a deeper issue that she isn’t sure about kids or isn’t flexible about things in general, she may not be the one for you.[/quote]

Nothing mentioned about her career. That might account for her timeline.[/quote]

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