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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Next time he compliments your cooking and insults hers:

“Thank you Bill, I’m glad you enjoyed the mashed potatoes” then with a big smile “But I hope you know that if DH ever talked to me the way you’re speaking to Larla he would be lucky to come home to a plate of rocks” Then shrug, smile “But that’s me, everyone’s different.”

He says he wished she spent more time with her kids the way you do.

“I think Larla is such a wonderful role model for her children and to mine. I hope you know that our children look up to Larla and we are all proud of your success.”

He compliments your clothing and insults hers:

“Thank you Bill, though I have to say that if DH commented negatively on my clothes he would get slapped. We’re all lucky Larla has more class than I would in that situation.” Be sure to end with a big smile every time.

And if he pushes back on anything you respond “oh, I’m just being honest. Do you want me to lie?”

I know these moments are uncomfortable and most people’s natural instinct is to get out of the situation. Your husband is not cutting off his brother so you can be prepared next time you see them. Practice a script. It’s so much easier when you already know what you’re going to say. Then you’re not coming up with something on the spot. 
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SIL might take these as a criticism of how she’s handling his comments. But I agree to speak up in the moment. [/quote]

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