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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It wasn't like a tree fell on this woman's house, it was long deferred maintenance and when the weather turned cool, the nephew decided to hurry up and get the house fixed up.  That was very sweet of him and it was wonderful of the other guys to show up and help out.  They did a good deed.

But I don't think it's fair to blame the fiance for feeling resentful that his Saturday was planned for him like that w/o even discussing it with him.[/quote]

I don’t blame him for not liking it. I even said that in a much earlier post. I’m concerned that he rudely refused assistance in completing what he said he’d do and then stormed off. I’m actually less critical that DH is. He points out that I wasn’t there and didn’t see the shirking, cursing, and all.  Takes a lot to impress DH who works with teens as a teacher and coach. My male cousin is only four years older than “Ben” and even he told me it was an out of proportion reaction to DH’s offer to buy beer.[/quote]

I guess he really, really, really did not want to be there and wasn't going to pretend otherwise.  Your husband was nice to offer to take everyone out for beer but the guy just wanted to get outta there and didn't want to spend even more of his day with these guys.  He was rude and, yes, he could have and should have been much nicer about it.  But maybe he was feeling that saying "No thanks" wasn't going to be enough and he wanted to make it crystal clear that he really, really, really did not want to be there and he really did not want to spend his time afterwards hanging out with the guys and drinking.[/quote]

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