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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Good lord this is a grim thread.  Haven't faced this (yet - hopefully won't - trying to be optimistic!) with my parents, but yikes this has me thinking - both of them, and me (and my husband) way down the road.  Can't there be a better way??  Who wants to be in this situation?  I would so much prefer to be dead than inflicting this torture on my daughter (my only child) - and I  know my mom and dad would answer the same way. So why do so many end up inflicting this horrific situation on their loved ones????[/quote]

I am in a similar situation, and my dad said the same thing you are saying (and I say myself) about never wanting to live this way, and never wanting to inflict this on their child. The problem is that the disease changes you. Before my dad lost his ability to make decisions he started to change, so that he was willing to live with his deterioration rather than die. Before the disease he absolutely would have wanted to die rather than suffer the indignities he now suffers, and rather than inflicting pain on others the way he does. But the changes happen slowly, and someone would have to have the desire and ability to commit suicide before they become more impaired in order to avoid this fate. There is nothing other than death that would have prevented my dad's decline. Its terribly sad, and I miss the man he was.[/quote]

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