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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I assume Op that you have read these boards enough to know that you would get a beating for being a male with needs.

Trust me, there are women and people who do see men as humans with emotions and needs and that doesn't make them bad people. There are many wives who love their husbands and who show them affection, support, appreciation, and who take an interest in their lives.

[b]Women and men are not that different - some are caring people, some aren't. Some give in a marriage, some only take. Some treat people well, some don't. A loveless, sexless marriage where one person doesn't care about the other person's life or needs is not healthy.[/b]

You need to address this with your wife. If not, it will eat at your soul and spirit and harm you. You may need to try marital counseling, you may end up divorced. [/quote]

Ok but this is not advice. When people come here with an issue, so often the "advice" is just outrage that their partner needs to change. Like when women come and complain about lazy partners. "He needs to pull his weight!" How is that helpful? When a woman comes here and says that her husband isn't helping I tell her to stop doing anything for him and let the things he is responsible for fall apart (natural consequences), although only the smart ones ever take this advice. (It worked for me in my marriage).

And when a man comes and complains about his wife not being particularly into him, I tell him to stop looking like a wet dog around her and go get a life. Let her wonder why you're not as attentive to her than you were in the past.

Being in denial about human nature doesn't work. You have to play the game. C'est la vie. [/quote]

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