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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I'm surprised by all the hate on the DH.  I see his point of view. [/b] I wouldn't want my kids gone for a good part of the summer especially if I couldn't go with them or this impacted how much we could travel as a family at other times.  Compromise on every other summer or shorten your trip to 7-10 days.  Can your relatives come stay with you for part of the summer?  Maybe that would get him to change his mind.  :)  You both have to be in agreement on something like this.  [/quote]

+1.  I don't understand why DH is being told he's being selfish when he wants to spend time with his kids.  If this were a dad sending the kids away, no one would call the mom selfish for not wanting her children gone all summer.[/quote]

I don’t know if your husbands work from home, don’t work at all or work part time, etc. Mine works a lot Mon-Fri. [b]He leaves the house at 8:30 am (does not spend any time with kids because he needs to ge ready before then) and comes home between 7/7:30.[/b] Literally he spends 30 minutes per day with our kids during the week. He is around them the whole weekend, but is it worth for the kids to give up on such amazing experiences so that DH (or DW) can spend 2 days a week with them? It seems very unfair to me and selfish (it does not matter if it’s the mom or the dad doing this).[/quote]

Some of us live closer in and so get home before 7:30.  And even if one parent puts in longer hours, it really doesn't matter--bottom line, it needs to be a joint decision between OP and her husband.  Doesn't matter if OP is a SAHP and primary caregiver--OP can't just decide to take *their* children out of the country for the [b]entire[/b] summer if her husband is not on board.[/quote]

P.S. Even if one parent doesn't see the children much at the end of the day, that could actually be an argument [u]in favor[/u] of keeping them home some of the summer--s/he has such precious little time with them, that they wants to make the most of it during summer weekends.[/quote]

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