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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“[b]Insult” you how? [/b]If it’s as bad as you say and you aren’t just being sensitive and self centered seems like she doesn’t want you as a friend. [/quote]

It's hard to tell without more information about what you consider an insult.

Since your friend is in pain -- infertility ranks up there with cancer in terms of how difficult and socially isolating it is, because literally people cannot understand how it feels unless they've been there -- I suggest that you dig deep and try and see if you being more present to her could help. Maybe she is lashing out because she isn't allowed to talk about what she feels, or because it's so painful she can't bear to put it into words. If you could try to see the friend you know and love behind this and tell her, I know this really hurts and sucks and is so unfair. How can I be there? If that doesn't help her see you as on her side, then maybe you need to put a little space. But it honestly is very tough, so just think about the fact that her non-ideal behavior is probably a cry for help. Depends how much you care about her but if she really is such a close friend I think she deserves a little more than this.

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BS. Infertility doesn't rank with cancer. Plus, how long has her friend been struggling with infertility? If she just started 2 years ago, well, what does she expect, you defy nature and then you have a right to be mad about it? I don't think so. If she started 10 years ago, she would have accepted it by now. Being rude and nasty is never ok.[/quote]

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