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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some people think they should be able to bring a child everywhere. Some places aren't appropriate for children. It's not that hard to understand. If you are that psychotic that you refuse to leave your child with a babysitter, I feel bad for your kid.

These people are selfish and have tunnel vision. They see it as people turning against them or their child. What they fail to realize is that an adult happy hour is designed to be just that. No onenwants to worry about child proofing the room, getting snacks and drinks to accommodate the little crumb snatchers. If one child is allowed, then how can't all children be allowed? Instead of an adult gathering, you have daycare.

When a party is throw, the host sets the rules. That's how it works. There are not special exceptions for you because you have a child that you hover over at ever waking moment.[/quote]

Ok. So you’re kidfree. If ever you’re not, you will remember the intensity of digging in with shame.

Of course there are events that children shouldn’t be at. Babysitting is $$$. If your expectation is for parents to never bring their children, understand you’ll probably see them with far less frequency, and for shorter period of time. “Happy Hour”, costs between $60-80 just in sitter fees. So pick a family friendly brunch spot now and again and try to be decent. [/quote]

GMAFB. I have 2 kids, including a baby. It’s not that hard to get that you shouldn’t bring your kid to every single girls night. OP said they’ve been accommodating on scheduling when it works for her, and she always brings the kid. It’s not a one-off time that they’re jumping on her about. She should be telling the group when her DH is around. If she doesn’t have a partner, and doesn’t want to pay a babysitter, then she should decline things like wine nights and suggest something more conducive to bringing a kid occasionally. I have a lot of single friends, and sometimes I bring my baby, like to lunch, if my friends are cool with it (and they are). But if they are having a wine night, I either figure out a way for someone to watch my kid, or I say “maybe next time.” It’s ridiculous to suggest that everyone else needs to change to accommodate a kid now to every single get together. And if the friend gets pissy ad drops them for that, oh well. [/quote]

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