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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you sure she didn't just ignore your messages because everything is going fine and she thought she made that clear? If I tell someone "yes it's fine" and they keep asking, I start ignoring.[/quote]

Op here. I don't think so. I didn't ask her if everything was fine yesterday until I sent her a text in the evening. I had to pickup my son on my lunch break and speed home so dh could take care of him the rest of the day. At this point I am going to tour a daycare. I don't want to feel uncomfortable about this arrangement. My friend really wanted to start a home daycare so I thought she would be perfect. [/quote]

NP. Home daycare providers get paid, OP.

When you say she "wanted to do childcare", was she talking about this before she knew you needed childcare? Or were you dropping hints left and right and finally she said that she'd be happy to do it?[/quote]

Op. Yes. She was actually looking for families. She asked me for advice. I wanted to pay her but she rejected the idea. I think she's weird about accepting money from friends.[/quote]

I think she was probably insulted when you grabbed your son and sped off. She doesn't want payment, because she thinks of herself as a friend, not an employee/daycare provider. She probably wanted you to hang out for a few minutes at least and talk about how cute her daughter is, what a good job she did, how grateful you are, and how you wish she'd let you pay her. It may not seem fair, but I suspect that's why you're getting the silent treatment, as opposed to her just telling you it isn't going to work out.[/quote]

I agree with this. You treated her like hired help, except you didn't hire her.[/quote]

Op here. I stayed for 10 minutes but I had to get back to work. I had a meeting at 1 pm. [/quote]

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