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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We live a middle class life compared to our SIL who is upper middle class.

Our kids go to public, they go to private and she stays at home while my husband and I work.

I've never been about money but sometimes when our kids get together and talk about things, or our kids go to their house, 
they make comments such as " L has a big pool, why can't we have that?"

OR when they went on a cruise, they go yearly---- our kids hear about it at family get togethers.

It's becoming obvious to them that their cousins have more resources due to my brother's job.

What do you say about these differences to your kids?..

we love what we do, money is not important to us and neither was it for my brother, 
but he's compensated fairly well.

We live in the same city, but we do not always hangout.[/quote]
BTDT and I would encourage you to let it go. My children are adults now, with families of their own and very accomplished academically and professionally in career fields they really wanted. They have each told us that they are so grateful that while we didn't have all the frills and expensive vacations that they believe, given the evidence, they really had the most loving and nurturing environment to grow up in. Did they have some jealousy growing up? Absolutely. But we never apologized for our station because we did above and beyond given what we had to work with and work against.

Also, FWIW, part of the reason we had less was because we chose to raise our children away from the area their cousins grew up in. We felt it wasn't the best environment to raise them in.[/quote]

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