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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Are those my only options- stay home or go and don't get to help plan Christmas? I'm genuinely curious. [/quote]

Here's an idea.  Go to CVS and buy a package of Oreos.  Are your in-laws really going to prevent your children from leaving them on a plate by the fireplace along with a note that you have your kids write some time during the day? [/quote]

This seems so sad to me.

I can see that the undercurrent of OPs complaint is that she wants to feel valued AND she wants her children to feel valued. She’s putting in so much effort to travel with her family for the holidays, she’s packing, sleeping in uncomfortable beds, dealing with kids schedules being disrupted, packing presents, etc. It sounds like she wants to feel as if a little bit of the holidays is also for her family. The ILs insisting that only their traditions are important shows that her family is no more than an afterthought or a photo prop. OP is looking for validation more than anything. She doesn’t want to sneak off to CVS to buy Oreos when nobody’s looking and put them on a plate by the fireplace when MIL is not looking. That whole scenario is incredibly depressing.[/quote]

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