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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ex wasn't ready for commitment (2004) after 3 years of dating.  When it was time to get serious and talk next steps, he broke it off as he didn't want end of divorced like his parents who married too young he thought.  He was so scared that he'd end up heartbroken like his parents.  He a thought that could we even understand love at the age of 23.  He was constantly hot and cold.  In sum - he was just immature.

Well, I got set up on a blind date a few years later and we immediately clicked (2007).  Dated for 1.5 years and got engaged (2008).  Of course I posted the news back then to facebook.  The next day, there was a knock on my apt door and I found my ex standing on one knee begging me to marry him instead.  He had driven 12 hours to come and profusely tell me how much he loved me.  He told me he had bought the ring a while back and he had been waiting for my DH and I to break up on facebook so he could propose instead.  He said I was making a mistake marrying my DH as we were true soul mates, etc.  We had not spoken in 5 years.  Of course I told him no; 1) I was no longer in love with him; 2) we haven't spoken in years; 3) how do I know he changed/wasn't immature once again we hadn't spoken; 4) a bit stalkerish for me as out of the blue.

I feel a bit bad for him as I heard he still talks about me to friends.  He's unmarried for all I can tell.  I do rarely wonder what would have happened if I would have stayed with him in 2004 and how much unhappier my life would have been over the last 15 years or so ([b]definitely not when he proposed b/c it was too creepy[/b]).

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:shock:  :shock:  :shock: [/quote]

You dated for three years, its not like he was a stranger![/quote]

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