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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband hates it when I direct or question the way he's doing things, but if I don't he leaves a path of half assed work I have to clean up behind.  E.g.

- Forgets to brush kids teeth before bed
- Uses daytime diaper at night (instead of nighttime diaper) which doesn't work for DS who wakes up at 2AM soaking wet 
- Leaves the dogs leash and collar in very random places the dog walker can't find it, she then calls me for help while I'm at work
- Doesn't start the dishwasher before bed when he's the one cleaning the kitchen so we don't have clean things to pack up in the morning
- Leaves out dangerous objectives all over the place

etc etc etc

I'm not perfect but in general I do not leave this path of things that behind me that create a lot of work for other people.  And these aren't things like having a preference for how the dishwasher should be loaded - it actually matters if the kids teeth aren't brushed 50% of the nights and the baby is waking up in the middle of the night soaked in urine.

I hate hate hate nagging him about it, I'd rather him just do things fully without me having to think through them also.  He acts like a bratty teenager when I do give him reminders for key things.  Any ideas of how to address / improve this?[/quote]

God these are such minor things. You need to chill out. Believe it or not everything will be fine and workout. It sounds like you attack him instead of taking a team approach. He is not your slave. Stop following behind him and let him figure stuff out. [/quote]

They are not minor.  They have a significant negative impact on both day to day life, and the relationship.

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No these are minor thing. OP is a control freak. You can miss brushing teeth once in a while, daytime diaper...really? If the daytime diapers can not contain the kids urine at nigh it can not do it during the day either. Tell your dog walk to call your husband about the leash. If someone else does all the dishes and puts them in the dishwasher I can push the button and start the thing. I do not know what you are talking about with either the dangerous things.

All you do no service to the OP.  These thing are minor, but hey go get a divorce and do everything by yourself forever. [/quote]

Yeah.  These are kind of minor things.  Just buy one kind of diapers.  Any child still in diapers can miss 1/2 the nights of teeth brushing.  It’s ok.  Give the dog away.  If issues with the dog have you thinking of divorce, then you don’t need it.  Teach your kids about sharp objects.  Buy some band aids.  
Just be nice to your husband.  It’s important for your kids, boys or girls, to grow up with a dad.  [/quote]

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