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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband hates it when I direct or question the way he's doing things, but if I don't he leaves a path of half assed work I have to clean up behind.  E.g.

- Forgets to brush kids teeth before bed
- Uses daytime diaper at night (instead of nighttime diaper) which doesn't work for DS who wakes up at 2AM soaking wet 
- Leaves the dogs leash and collar in very random places the dog walker can't find it, she then calls me for help while I'm at work
- Doesn't start the dishwasher before bed when he's the one cleaning the kitchen so we don't have clean things to pack up in the morning
- Leaves out dangerous objectives all over the place

etc etc etc

I'm not perfect but in general I do not leave this path of things that behind me that create a lot of work for other people.  And these aren't things like having a preference for how the dishwasher should be loaded - it actually matters if the kids teeth aren't brushed 50% of the nights and the baby is waking up in the middle of the night soaked in urine.

I hate hate hate nagging him about it, I'd rather him just do things fully without me having to think through them also.  He acts like a bratty teenager when I do give him reminders for key things.  Any ideas of how to address / improve this?[/quote]

God these are such minor things. You need to chill out. Believe it or not everything will be fine and workout. It sounds like you attack him instead of taking a team approach. He is not your slave. Stop following behind him and let him figure stuff out. [/quote]

I had a husband like this - we divorced 7 years after kids.  He did not pay attention to anything - kids' teeth, box cutters out, garbage out, grass too tall, kids' shoes did not fit, what to do for meals. He was like having another dependent in the house while we both worked, made same income. Then, in one week of visiting his parents with both young kids they went to the hospital twice. Once for grandpa backing over the 5 yo with his minivan when re-parking - broken foot bone as it was tire over foot, and then 2 days later for a heavy outside door slamming shut on the 2 yos fingers right infront of XHD chatting with his parents and friends. Permanent nerve damage in right hand.

After that, he didn't get a word in on custody whatsoever. Though, he did try for 50/50 it was clear to all that he did not know how to do many adult things and in particular, care for a child or run a schedule well. This also negatively affected his court-ordered clauses on taking the children on vacations. He can not handle it and safety is #1. [/quote]

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