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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I argued because I don't want him to schedule a 6 hour event with his hobby group on an upcoming Saturday. We don't currently have plans for that Saturday, but we have a ton of unfinished projects around the house, we need to make time to see his mom, I'd like to go get pumpkins sometime soon, etc.

DH goes out one night a week to do this hobby, and also stays up late working on it in the house, and texts constantly with his hobby friends. Two or three times a year he goes to overnight events; the most recent one was 4 nights and took  place less than a month ago. We both WOH with one young child.

He thinks I'm isolating him because I don't have hobbies myself. I feel like he may as well be cheating, given all the attention being directed outside our family. What's reasonable? [/quote]

1) You currently don't have plans for that day so he gets credit for trying to make plans that don't require canceling other plans.
2) Are they YOUR unfinished projects around the house or his or joint?  Do they really need to be done in the next month?  If so, why can't they get done during the week, or on Sunday?
3) Why do you need to make time to see his mom, other than because that's just a general thing you do?  Also, how long does that take?  Does she live an overnight trip away?
4) How long does it take to go get pumpkins?  Any reason you can't do it one of the other weekends before Halloween?
5) He only goes out one night a week for his hobby.  
6) Does his staying up late affect you?  Does he say he's too tired to help with the kid or go to work in the morning because he's tired?
7) Two or three times a year isn't a lot for events.  
8) Do you have any hobbies?
9) Did you tell him he might as well be cheating?  Because you do realize that that involves betrayal, rather than just time consumption.

Maybe some of your answers to the above would sway me, but honestly I can't find a single point on which you're being reasonable.[/quote]

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