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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just noticed a friend of my younger sisters is pregnant on my Facebook feed. She is 26.married at 24. Her husband is also 26. [b]I notice he is a stem major and probably makes bank. They look like they have their life figured out.

Meanwhile husband and I are early thirties. Still can’t afgord a child. Or a house.[/b]

Lol. Feel like a loser. [/quote]

I know a lot of people who got married and had children very young. Here's what I've noticed:

-The ones who don't divorce are very religious. Which is fine, but it's not my thing. Or they met very young (14-15) and got married years later after college.

-They don't make bank, even with STEM degrees. Usually only the man works once kids come along. Often they aren't very good at their job- usually men who want to settle down and start a family that early on aren't really Type A/career-focused enough to truly excel and make big $.

-They don't worry about "affording kids". They just have them. I know couples who have 5-6 kids, usually only 1-2 years apart (one couple I know has 9!). I know what the husband does for work, and know that there is no way they can afford to pay for all their kids' college tuition. Kids share rooms, they have only one vehicle (usually a crazy big, crappy van), live in less desirable areas, have smaller houses, and use a lot of hand-me-downs. They get handouts from church. They don't do things like sports or music classes because they can't afford them.

-They just have different priorities. Kids/family are really the only priority, and they don't prioritize saving or needing to "afford" certain things before having kids. They mostly live paycheck to paycheck and don't have much set aside for retirement. Which is fine, but I would be extremely stressed out living that way. They also don't place much value on material possessions- big house, nice clothes, vacations, etc.

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