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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b] I think it’s weird that you all have to have mom friends.  [/b]Virtually all women are capable of and have babies. Does that mean you have to hang around with all women? If the only thing you have in common with another woman is that you both have children, that’s weird virtually all women are capable of and have babies. Does that mean you have to hang around with all women? If the only thing you have in common with another woman is that you both have children, that’s no basis for a friendship.  [/quote]

I have lots of friends who don't have kids, so I'm not saying that all or even most of my friends have to be moms (or women!). But [b]having mom friends IS nice because there is a lot of shared experience to talk about. [/b]That's different than just the "capability" to have kids, which is honestly beside the point.[/quote]

I mean, if you asked me about friends in general, I would say that my best friends tend to be closer to me in age. Some of them are people from high school or college, some were starting out in their careers when I was, too. Other friends have a shared interest and might be older or younger, but that's similar to the "mom friends" situation.

I think the thing that the OP was getting at is that when you have children, you are thrown together with a lot of other mothers who also have children that age, and some will become more your friends than others. I found that when I was in the baby stages, the age of the other mothers didn't matter at all, because we were all overwhelmed with the basics of life with babies and changing family dynamics. As my kids have gotten older, I spend less time on those topics both in conversation and in terms of what I'm doing all day long, and so I'm more likely to make friends with people in a similar stage of life to me who also have kids around my kids' ages.[/quote]

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