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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I torture myself by reading the threads about giftedness, and live in a district where I know to a certainty that other parents are doing workbooks with their 3 and 4 year olds.   My Larla has never evinced a gift for anything, but she is social and sweet - awful at moments, because, you know, 3.  We had her in EI for hypotonia and she has no therapies any more.  No SNs.

But now I’m in the “now what?” mentality.  Both DH and I heard all over our childhoods how smart we are.  Truth is, I’m not, just highly verbal. I get that life is much more about peace, joy, and integrity of effort than “gifts” even as I’ve repeatedly failed to hew to that in thought and deed.   I’m worried that being around “my peers,” a well-off neoliberal crew where everyone has grad degrees and salaries, or SAH like me despite the education, will crush me.  I don’t see
a future Misty Copeland or Mark Zuckerberg when I see my sweet girl.   And my peers are always bragging.   Those with older kids, and are just normal decent humane humans, how did you deal?   I need pointers, mantras, books, anything.[/quote]

First of all, your child has a gift. She is gifted in many ways, some of them is known to you, some not yet. Been social and sweet is a gift that many people can't master even when they grow up (despite all the books they read or classes they take). 
Second, stop comparing your child to other children. You don't know the whole story there. 
And the third, stop saying that your child never going to be a future Misty or Mark. Start believing in her. She may get much further then Misty or Mark. [/quote]

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