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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP wanting to clarify a few points-

1. Our motivation to adopt is that we want to add more children to our family. The “wanting a sibling for our child” thing is regarding timing, not our underlying motivation.

2. We realize all kids avaialable for adoption have already have suffered the trauma of the loss of their birth family. But from what I’ve seen through the numerous adoptions I’m familiar with firsthand (these were all 5-10+ years ago, which is why I want to hear more recent experiences), there is a huge spectrum of health and emotional concerns and I want to know where we can realistically draw the line but still have a good chance of a fairly reasonable timeline. Almost all of the adoptive families we know adopted healthy infants domestically or from China or Vietnam. Two adopted children who were classified as “special needs” (one had a large birthmark, one has scars from a fire) and are happy, healthy, and living “normal” lives now as teens. One family adopted supposedly healthy children from Russia who had severe attachment disorder and FASD. They children will never be able to live independently and they dealt with scary, violent behavior toward their biological children. I’m trying to be realistic about what our family can take on upfront.

3. Of course we know there are no guarantees with any child, biological or adopted. [/quote]

If you are open to a child of African Heritages, minor medical needs as mentioned above and in your orginal post check out Spence-Chapin. They have a few international programs or of which is South Africa. The program specifically has a high need for 1.5 yeas-preschool age children. They  can (and any agency should be able to tell) tell you over the phone/email if you have anything in your history (assuming you are up front with them and the topic comes up in uour conversations) that might cause a problem for the respective program/country before you apply   I believe they will allow you to work with a number of HS agencis in the area. As with any international or domestic adoption it is a long process with tons of paperwork and red tape. But it is nothing compared to parenting!!

IF you are considering adoption I highly recommend meeting with some agencies.  As well as attending educational work shops, support groups, open houses and adoption related events. There is a Adoption  & Fostercare Expo Oct 13th in DC. A lot of different agencies and parents that have adopted from a number of different paths will be in attendance.

Best of luck finding the best path for your family.

Here's the new link.  http://events.r20.constantcontact.com/register/event?oeidk=a07efltxx5w3d345662&llr=6cymg5cab
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