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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sex is enjoyable for both people. I don't know women who don't enjoy it. [/quote]

For a woman who is perpetually exhausted, given the choice between sexing the man-child and getting an extra 30 minutes of sleep, sleep will win every time. [/quote]

I hear what you're saying, but here is where biology creates a disconnect. Guys like sex enough that most of them, even if exhausted and even if the woman isn't treating them very well, would still skip a half-hour of sleep to have sex. [/quote]

That isn’t true.  Men don’t want sex when they are exhausted either.  I mean, no one was having sex in the concentration camps.  What is more true is that men will not work themselves to exhaustion to take care of the children and family home, and women will.  
Also, women tend to view the home as their work, hence the term “second shift.” 
So, think of this more like the equivalent of working your butt off for weeks on something at work, staying there night and day, and you decide to take a break and sleep at your desk for a couple of hours.  At that point, your wife comes to your work, unshowered and dressed in her finest sweatpants, and wants to have sex on your chair where you were supposed to be sleeping with your uncompleted work staring at you from the computer screen.  Would you still be excited about it?  [/quote]

Women aren't concentration camp tired. Men, after similar levels of work as women and getting similar amounts of sleep as women, are still usually going to want to have sex with a woman, even if she hasn't been treating him especially well. Testosterone has consequences. [/quote]

I think that some women are pretty exhausted.  If you are getting up multiple times a night with children, then up early in the morning doing housework, then go to work at a demanding job all day, hustling through and skipping meals to be able to pick up kids on time, then coming home and trying to have some quality time with children before bed, then either logging back into work or doing more housework, it's pretty exhausting.  You should see some of the schedules women share on here.   And then they still feel like they are lacking at home and at work.

My husband is a critical care doc.  The night before last, he did CPR on a 17 year old girl for an hour and a half before they called it.  He had some niggling doubts in his treatment of her that maybe he could have done this or that, and he hasn't really been able to sleep since then.  He hasn't wanted to have sex for two days.  Eventually, he will, but that was because it was an isolated incident.  If he felt so exhausted and took such a blow to his ego regularly, it would be a long time.

I think that a lot of women in high pressured jobs with young children are dealing with this kind of stress and fatigue on a regular basis.  Then on top of it, they feel like they are failing at work.  They feel like they are failing at motherhood.  And their husbands aren't helping.

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