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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 16 y/o daughter was good friends with a guy she had classes with for a couple of years. She found out in May that he has been truly awful to some other girls in the school. He sent one girl a threatening/weird message, and blackmailed two other girls with their nude pictures. She is assigned a seat next to him in a class, and he came to sit with her at lunch yesterday. My daughter is shy and conflict-averse, but she doesn’t want to hang out with this guy.

She knows she needs to say something, but isn’t sure how to word it. My concern is the possibility of incurring this guy’s wrath. Guys who treat girls like this should be avoided. I’m not concerned he has any pictures or blackmail-worthy info on her. There was never anything romantic between my daughter and this kid.

How much should she say? It would be nice if she could be honest, then maybe he would feel some shame or see consequences for his behavior. On the other hand, he obviously has anger issues, and a frightening reaction to rejection. [/quote]

First I think you are a troll. Adults do not get involved in highschool drama and isolating/punishing one kid. When they do, kids commit suicide. It’s called bullying. So it is not your DD(or really your) places to do anything to this boy. You are not the social enforcer for highschool and your involvement will only make things worst.  First how the hell do you know what is going on? How do you know he has anger issues? My experience with girls at this age is that there are rumors, vendettas, lots of power plays for leadership of groups, manipulation of events/others to your side and lots and lots of drama(specially around boys). You say he sents weird message and give no context. Would have to see all the messages in the conversation and ask all parties involved to explain what was meant before I could make a judgement on that...I have seen weird texts messages many times only to be explained away. The biggest red flag is he has two other girls nude pictures(again how do you know he has pictures...everyone- the girls or he could be lying). Why do you think girls send naked pictures to boys? It’s because they like the boy. So two girls liking one boy....drama!

At this point, you tell your dd this is why you never send nude picture. Since you and your daughter really have know idea what’s going on, she should disengage from all parties( the boy and all the girls). You need back out of the highschool drama. Let’s says your daughter follows your advice and strikes out emotionally punishing the boy to teach him a lesson. What happens if that and the social pressure applied by the two other girls causes the boy to commit suicide? How would you feel, how would your dd feel? It’s called bullying and you are an adult. If you as an adult think there is have a problem bring it to the school. [/quote]

NP.  Wow, you're an idiot.[/quote]

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