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[quote=Anonymous]This is too hard to give you advice.  It can go either way.  You have to make the decision for yourself.

I was always ambivalent about having kids. DH, too. We got married late, and we decided to give it a try, and if it happens, great, if not, then fine, too. I got pregnant within 3 mo. I was 34.

We thought we would be one and done, but DC was super easy, and I kept thinking about how lonely DC might feel. We both have siblings and even though we don't seem them often, it's nice to know they are there, especially as our parents get older, we can rely on our siblings to share the burden of checking on our parents, visiting, etc...

So we ended up with #2, I was 38.

I won't lie. It's tough in many ways, but I don't regret it.  DCs love each other so much, and it's great for them to have a builtin playmate. I don't particular like to "play" with my kids alot, and if you have only one child, you as a parent do become the default playmate. Playdates don't help on vacation, nor can you rely on them solely.  Having a sibling has helped them to learn to share more and be more sympathetic. Yes, they fight as all siblings do, but for the most part, they get along and seek each other out.  My DC#1 said to me that DC is glad DC has a sibling.  DC knows kids who don't have siblings, DC says DC feels badly for them.  I'm sure there are "onlies" that don't feel that way.

Then again, having a kid could totally ruin your life.  So again, this is a really hard decision, and no one can tell you one way or another.  [/quote]

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