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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

FWIW I am Indian and my MIL is frosty with me too. She did not want me to marry DH due to my race too but has for all intents and purposes come around. My DH continues to make excuses for her though. I am so fed up I want to leave. I do not want any children in this mess.

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I am also Indian and my husband is white, mother an old WASP from Connecticut. For years she didn't make any attempt to get to know me or my kids (one is blond, the other is dark like me). Basically, she felt like diluted her perfectly blonde lineage. I dealt with snide, racist comments about my darker child for years. I rarely spoke up and resented my husband for giving the same excuses about her age and socioecomic status that make her that way. I didn't buy it. Finally, when she wanted to come and visit and stay here this summer, I made him talk to her about what is appropriate and what she has to accept. It seemed to help her in the sense that she was more engaged with my younger child and asked questions about my culture that weren't totally inappropriate. I still am cautious about letting her come around too much. I know my kids will sense and pick up on her racist ways, even if she tries to disguise them. Just be careful about your husband feeling like he needs to choose. Its on him to protect his multi-racial children as much as it on you. [/quote]

Sorry to hear all this.

Who did they vote for in 2016?[/quote]

MIL for Hillary/FIL for Trump. [/quote]

[b]Fascinating.[/b]

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Why fascinating?? you don't think anyone on the left is capable of being racist? Get real.[/quote]

Nope, I know pretty well that there are many racist and xenophobic folks on the left too.

What I found fascinating is that each parent in law voted for a different candidate, so I can only imagine what dinner table conversations must have been like around 2016 election day. Racism is probably the least of their problems.[/quote]

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