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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Having to go back home 2-3 times a week because he forgot something is insane.  He needs to just keep everything together so he can grab it in the morning.

I'd get rid of the animals, he's using them as an excuse.

Who actually takes care of the kids on his non-reserve weekends?  You're doing laundry, cooking, cleaning etc - but especially if they're that little, is he with them?

Sounds like he's kind of a dick but I feel like there are other issues at play here.[/quote]

OP--I put laundry in before bedtime on a 8-hour delay and dry/fold while they're taking an afternoon nap or fall asleep for the night. Have an older one in a large play pen, while I vacuum/clean/cook and the youngest one in a bouncer or a swing. I take showers while they take their morning naps.[/quote]

Dear OP, my husband travels for work frequently so I'm often alone in things.  Please don't justify how you keep the house running while having kids. Your process is normal, although really cool/cooler than others as your washer has a delay.  Women have been running houses and raising kids for generations.

I wish you the best.  Divorce won't be easy, but neither is having a 3rd kid basically (your DH).

Ps.  Keep the animals.  Animals make life better.  [/quote]
Dear OP, ignore the PP.   Pets only make life better if it doesn't add stress to your life, but in your case, it's just one more thing to be responsible for.

Women have had to suck it up and deal with a-holes DHs for hundreds of years because they had no other options. Today we do, thank goodness. I'm not for divorce, but you shouldn't have to just suck it up and deal with it just because women in the past have had to.

My immigrant mother from a very traditional culture would tell me that "it's just the way it is" when talking about how women have it harder, to which I respond, "no.. that's just the way it was when you were younger. It doesn't have to be this way today and not for me".

You keep fighting to make your DH pull his weight, whether that's counseling, not doing his dishes/laundry, and letting him be late for work.  The only part that is very unfair is that you can't just let your kids suffer because of your DH's inability to get his act together.[/quote]

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