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[quote=Anonymous]I cut my parents off after they campaigned against my trans child. They said they would not call him by his new name or gender, that it was just a phase, he’s mentally ill, I’m a bad parent for allowing that behavior, and that I’m setting a bad example for my other children by allowing this. After that speech, they asked what time we were coming over for a visit the next week. I said we needed to take a little time to adjust to the new normal before we visit. That set them off into a rage.

They called all our family members who were supportive and chastised them for promoting such a unhealthy lifestyle. My parents don’t go to church, aren’t religious, and my mom is agnostic, but they acted pious and accused supporters of being bad Christians and implied that they’d go to hell and that they were leading my son on a path to eternal damnation.

Then they called all my aunts and uncles, and my FIL (we hadn’t told him yet), and outed my son and for everyone worked up over the situation, so there was little chance of me explaining things calmly and rationally.

To be honest, I was hurt and surprised that they couldn’t be more open minded, but I figured given more time they’d eventually come around. All I asked is that they be respectful. If it had been a phase, just ride it out. If it’s not a phase (and it’s not), then even by showing respect when you disagree with someone, the relationship can still be salvaged. Regardless of how you feel about transgender issues or the lgbt community at large, there was no reason to treat my son and my family the way they did.

If you ask them, they’ll say I’m accusing them of being homophobic and I’m encouraging my son to be mentally ill. They think I’m keeping my kids away from them, but my kids saw/heard their behavior and asked not to be around them anymore. My parents are well respected in their community, and from the outside they seem like perfect parents and grandparents. All their friends think I’m a horrible mother and daughter.

This happened some time ago, and all I feel is relief not to have to deal with them anymore. [/quote]

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