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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe I'm projecting my own biases since most posters don't reveal their genders, but it seems like the guys are generally saying "be honest and give him the reason," which is respectful but also confrontational, while the women are generally saying "ghost him" or "make up a lie about getting back together with an ex," as a way to reduce the potential for conflict. I'm a guy, so I would suggest the former (he did bad things in his past; he did not mistreat you)[/quote]

You could be right in general, but female poster here with a loved one who overcame some pretty terrible stuff and genuinely turned his life around. Yes he has a history and a record, but that's not who he is anymore.

I'm not saying that would be the case for all people with a history of addiction and arrest, but I guess if nothing else it means that if you're going to be bothered by these things then you need to get to know someone better before getting that intimate with them. There are any number of personal history factors that would be better to know ahead of time for your own well-being.

If you like him and felt safe around him, I say bring it up and at least ask if it's currently an issue. [/quote]

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