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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He will not get alimony if he is working but he can get child support to help him maintain a home/kids things while in his care.  [/quote]

OP here, but even if I cannot afford it? As in I will literally be ending with a few dimes each month, but I have to pay him?! That means I can’t divorce him. I will have no $ to give for support after I pay rent, utilities, etc. for me and the kids.

There are so many lawyers on DCUM, can one of you opine? Am I stuck with him, if indeed I have to pay support I can’t afford on my own?

What am I going to do, I have worked so damn hard these past few years to get a promotion, to make more money, so I can get out of this.  I am seriously crying now, I can’t ever get away! Oh my God my poor kids, what the F*** am I going to do?[/quote]This is really dependent on the judge and state.  We had family friends in NC who were lower middle class pre-divorce.  He lost his job when he became addicted to pain pills and alcohol.  He was also physically abusive so she didn't file for divorce until the kids graduated from high school.  He got a pro bono attorney in the divorce proceedings.  She made too much for free representation but couldn't afford an attorney.  He claimed to have been a SAHD and disabled with a back injury, though he spent every day stoned and took zero responsibility for their kids.  He got all of their savings and a big alimony award.  She got the house and was ordered to pay alimony and his health insurance.  A few months later she was laid off from her job.  The unemployment check didn't even cover the alimony payment.  She tried to have it adjusted, but the person she spoke with at the court told her not to bother because they'd just tell her she had to try to find another job first. She lived off of food from the food pantry for many months, with no luck in her job search.  Then her house burnt down.  She had stopped paying home insurance a few months back.  That same month her unemployment ran out so she stopped paying alimony.  She was literally living in a tent on her property when  the sheriff stopped by and threatened to put her in jail for non payment of alimony.  At this point she managed to get a pro bono attorney and had alimony temporarily stayed, but she spent several months while she waited to get an attorney and a court date terrified that her ex would petition to have her put in jail until she could pay him.  She did eventually get another job (that included housing) and he petitioned to have alimony resume.  Of course, this whole while he's been working construction despite his "bad back," getting paid under the table and living in an apartment with a new girlfriend.  [/quote]

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