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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He has no savings. I travel out of state to see him and have to drive us everywhere and pay for things if we want to do stuff. I stay at his parent's house. They smoke and I do not like smoke, but I try to put up wiith it or stay away from it. It makes them mad when I try and avoid the smoke because they see it as me being rude. He cannot travel to me because he has no money and isn't working or in school. He's been unemployed for a little over a year now and says he's looking for work, but he plays computer games all the time.

The thing is, he is the sweetest boyfriend I have ever been with. I'm a few years older than him. In the beginning he spent almost all the money he made on me. But then he got fed up with his job and quit it. He doesn't have any education post high school. He can work in a few skilled trades at an entry-level status, but he s not able to earn much. His parents don't push him to go out and get a job. He also doesn't have a license. They don't push him to get this either. His mom said they used to try to help him with his driving skills but he ran right through a four way stop or something and that was the end of that. His dad yelled at him that he put in his resignation like three times.

I know all this doesn't sound good, but he is very good to me, kind, gentle, loving, sweet. I have talked to him many times about getting a job and he will say stuff like "No one is hiring" or he has tried, blah blah.

Also, he told me a few months ago he would be starting a course to get his CNC license or something and then it never panned out. I don't know what to do anymore. We get in arguments over money sometimes. It makes me feel awful. I don't feel like he's using me at all. He never asks me to buy him anything. He never takes money from me. And once I offered to pay for his course he wanted to do and he said he would never take my money. His parents don't have money to send him to school and don't encourage him to take on student loans either.

I've encouraged him to get his license, but his dad lets him drive without a license sometimes and I've told him how bad this is. He sometimes does it when I'm not in the state. He talks about wanting to get married and have a baby. And I truly would love to marry him, but I can't until he is working.[/quote]

How is he “good” to you?

Specifically.[/quote]

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