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[quote=Anonymous]Divorced mom here who owns house with ex.  We just never sold it or bought the other out.  I've stayed in it for almost ten years now to raise the kids.  I imagine I'll be here until the youngest goes off to college.  We both will get half the proceeds.  It's like there's one entity, the landlord, which is 50% each of us, then another entity, the tenant, which is all me.
Now it takes a degree of cooperation to manage this situation.  I.e. when the AC dies and we have to replace it to the tune of $4k.  Obvs you can't manage that with an unreliable ex.  But if each party is diligent/responsible/does their part, it is doable.

I also don't think it would be confusing to the kids if he stayed here for three days.  We cooperatively attend school functions, manage pick ups and drop offs, doctors and dentists, etc.  We go out to dinner maybe two or three times a year for whatever reason as a "family".  Two to three times a year does not mixed signals make.

If a child comes in and finds you in bed together in the morning?  Yeah, that's a mixed signal and I think, not cool?  But if he's in the guest room or on the couch  NBD.

Having a mom who makes it clear she HATES my dad makes me want to make it clear to my kids that, although their dad and I were not able to make a marriage  work, he is a good person.  I sort of feel about him like he's a blood relation family member.  Nothing romantic there but, you can't (usually, for most people) turn your family away.[/quote]

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