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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP this is a 2 year relationship, not 2 weeks.  You need to find out if you both want a future. If so he needs to sell the house, or pay her the portion owed. She cannot stay at his home. If he refuses to do both you need to stop wasting time ASAP.

It sounds like he kicked you to the curb when she came to town.[/quote]

Must be nice to be independently rich.

It sounds like BF and XW bought the house, had a kid, had marital problems and divorced.  XW left and BF kept the house so that the child could stay in the same schools.  They probably bought a house at their limit so kid could be in a good school district.  BF may not be able to afford to buy out her portion of the house and he may not be able to afford to stay in the same school district if they sold the house.  They want to keep the child in the house so until he can afford to buy her out, they keep the house for the best interests of the child.  XW is still co-owner of the house and there is no point in wasting money on a hotel when she is coming by to transfer child from one parent to the other, money that can be put towards the house or the child.  If they stay in different rooms (likely), what's the issue?

If you aren't sympathetic to a situation created for the best interests of his child, you're a lousy partner for someone who has a child from a prior marriage.  They are trying to share custody and keep the child in the same school.  The only people I know in situations like this are ones who can't afford to separate their finances and still be able to care for their child for the child's best interest.  When the situation changes such that they can separate the finances without causing undue financial hardship that would jeopardize the child's interests, most couples separate their finances as fast as they can.

The only issue I see is that BF did not communicate what was going to happen before XW came to town.  It's a communication problem.  But if you listen to PP's advice, you'll turn a communication problem into a bigger one.  But then again, if OP follows PP's advice to dump him if he won't automatically financially split whether it's good for the broken family or not just because of her ultimatum, it's probably better for BF that the shallow GF dumps him anyways.[/quote]

Ok so why would she have to stay at her own place just because she's in town?[/quote]

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